It Must Be Easy

You know when you hear something being passed around as truth and you know in your heart that what is being said is no where near the truth?

Well that is how I feel about how cops are being portrayed these days. Now, I understand my bias because my husband is one, but I also believe that gives me the right to speak up about truths that I see.

There are a lot of things being said about who is being hired as a cop and that departments need to up the ante on their qualifications. I am not sure that these people who are making these statements are even aware of the process that most law enforcement officers go through in order to get hired.

My husband was practically in a law enforcement job search for seven full years before he was officially offered a position. He started his first internship two years prior to his first application. So really he had been after this officer job for almost an entire decade before he was hired. Each time he was told no, he went after another credential to add to his resume. To get the job, Tom had to get a degree in criminal justice, have various internships, and go to war for this country. He has applied to positions in 3 different states (Missouri, Texas, and Iowa). He has been in the process in large cities, small college towns, county departments, and various sizes in the middle. There are several departments that he applied to more than once as well.

To say we know a little bit about police hiring processes would be an understatement. There is a file box completely devoted to his hiring search history.

So what does a person go through in a police officer process?

Again Tom has been through between 25-30 different processes, and all of them have similar ingredients. They may vary on when each step occurs, but generally we have seen each of these in every process.

1. Application.

  • Usually this is pretty basic. It establishes that you meet the minimum state requirements to be a police officer. If you meet the qualifications, you are allowed to test at this point.

2. Physical Training Test

  • Being a physically demanding job, there are some standards that they want to make sure you can meet. It is always a series of push-up, sit-ups, and a run. Some departments will have an obstacle course or a flexibility test as well.

3. Written Exam

  • This is a test that measures your general knowledge and critical thinking skills. It is a standardized test that you can’t really study for.

These are generally the first steps. If you do not pass these, you do not move into the next round.

4. Background Check

  • This is the worst part. Some can be 80 pages long with the documentation you provide. You have to sign a waiver that they can access all kinds of records or contact anyone in the packet. The background check is really your full life. Every address you have ever had, any roommates and their current address, full work history, references which cannot be a repeat of any person you have already listed, bank information, and so much more. They ask for the password to your Facecbook and email. Tom even had to list all of my parents information. They dig deep.

5. Interviews

  • Often there are several of these at varying levels of the process. Usually you will have one with the chief, a panel of officers, and a separate background interview. All of these are pretty intense interviews. Rarely are people asked the type of situational questions officers-to-be are asked. These interviews are attempting to gain an idea of your character and moral being with hypothetical questions. Also typically if you are interviewing with the chief, that means a good thing. But even then that is not a guarantee, as we learned in Iowa.

6. A ride along

  • This is where you ride with an officer to observe a traditional shift. This is one that has been optional at most but required at a few.

7. Polygraph

  • This is an exam that asks you questions you would never have thought to ask someone. This is double checking your background check.

8. Medical /Psychological

  • The department requires you to take a doctor’s physical. It’s very in-depth and includes a normal physical, drug tests, lung capacity tests, and running on a treadmill while hooked to an EKG.
  • You also take several psychological tests and meet with a Psychologist for an interview. They review your background and questions you with some regular questions, as well as some very unorthodox ones.

Each department may have a different order to the process. And some may circle round and do some steps twice.

Some departments won’t look at you unless you have been post-certified, which means that you had to have of already gone through a police academy. More than half of the departments don’t have the funding to put officers through an academy, so they need people to have that already. Many people have to pay for that themselves. (That was Tom’s next step if he was not hired this go around.)

Some departments also don’t look at you if you don’t have a bachelor’s degree.

If you couldn’t tell, this is not a fast process. Most of them take months to get through each round. For the job Tom has now, it took 6 months to complete the process.

I am really tired of people saying that there needs to be a more stringent process to hire cops because I have watched my husband go through countless processes to be told he wasn’t good enough or that someone else was more qualified. His moral fiber was put into question enough times that would break most people. Many would have given up years ago after chasing a dream that long. To watch him wait for 10 years to get this job, it breaks my heart to watch some of these reports come out saying that departments need to be pickier about their applicants and that our officers today are not of good enough quality to be protecting our communities.

What more would people want out of this process? I really am curious what other screenings people think need to be part of this process. Maybe I am missing something.

Tom has been in a process that had 900 people apply for one position. Not the greatest odds even if you have a bachelor’s, are post-certified, are a veteran, and have a great background in general.

Departments have the opportunity to be picky, and they take the time to be choosy with their applicant process.

It’s really offensive to hear, “Oh whatever, I will just be a cop.” Or to see all these news reports saying that departments aren’t doing a good enough job making personnel decisions.

Like this is something easy.

I am here to tell you that it is not easy for someone to be a cop, regardless of how it may be portrayed in the media. First there is the commitment to put your life on the line for complete strangers. Then the courage and stamina it takes to endure one (if not several) of these processes is great. There is so much vulnerability and your entire being is put under a microscope. Every decision you have ever made is put into question and examined thoroughly. The nerves waiting to be hired is drawn out for months if not years. Then to be ridiculed and spit on by the community that you are hired to protect; that takes a mighty person to want to continue in that field. It is not for the faint of heart.

I hope that people do support our law enforcement officers and realize how much thought is put into the hiring process for those wearing blue (or green, khaki, or whatever the badge requires). I feel like departments realize the gravity of the situation and put in the effort to make an informed decision on hiring their officers.

And this is just the hiring process. There is so much more that goes into the training. But that may be a post for another day.

Fit for Me 11/52

What I did last week:

Thursday-30 minutes on a bike.

Saturday- 1 hour of BodyPump. I haven’ been in a class for awhile so it was nice to get back in there. And the instructor I love was teaching so I was able to really get into it. We also took a 20 minute walk with the dogs and baby.

Sunday-I took the dogs on a 30 minute walk by myself. I found a great 2.5 mile loop by our house that has two monster hills. I think I want to try to be able to run them by the end of the summer…maybe.

Monday-20 minute ab workout.

Tuesday-30 minutes on the elliptical.

Impressed by:

I figured out how to read while on the elliptical without getting motion sickness or a headache so that was a win for this week. I might actually finish a book this way!

Struggled with:

That hill by our house was a struggle pushing the stoller, but I conquered it ever so slowly. It was a good struggle.

Did I meet my goal from last week?

I did work out at least 5 days. Whoop whoop!

What is my goal for next week?

George and I are going to be on a road trip the next 5 days, so my goal is to do these stretches every morning. I would also like to get at least one workout done on the road, but we’ll see how that happens since I will be solo with George.

Fitness Thoughts:

Hills are hard-mentally and physically. The downs and ups both are hard in their own rights. Why don’t I live in a place that is flat?

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How do you tackle hills? Do you have any good road trip exercises you do?

Oogaa Bowltastic

It has been a while since I have baked something, so I wanted to try a new recipe this month.

The Oogaa challenge this month was to try our baking on these bowls.

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Y’all seriously.

I cannot speak enough about the high quality and amazingness of these products from Oogaa.

A kid friendly bowl, that you can BAKE in.

No baking in a metal tin and then transferring to a kid plate.

Instead of having to use several dishes, you can just use this one fun one!

I am all about easy clean up!

And speaking of clean up, instead of having to scrape or worry about cupcake liners, it is so simple to get the baked item out of the bowl. You just push it out since they are silicone. Fantastically easy, which I am sure is great for kids who are just known for their patience.

I also want to point out that in my lack of awareness I attempted to peel the brownie out of the bowl (right after pulling it out of the oven) with my bare hands. While I do not recommend this type of stupidity, I will say that it did not burn my hands as a metal baking sheet would have. So these are much safer, which is a bonus when you have kids helping you in the kitchen.

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Tom and I had a severe sweet tooth brewing. After perusing Pinterest, these Pumpkin Brownies just called our names. And it seriously can’t get better than a two ingredient recipe. Sold.

This may sound like a fall recipe, but we are adults and we wanted pumpkin brownies.

We used this recipe here.

To critique the recipe, they weren’t exactly our favorite. They came out more fudgy than brownie. Don’t worry, I still ate them. Also I will note that it had nothing to do with the Oogaa bowl. I didn’t cut the recipe in half, so I had a lot of extra batter. I made some cupcakes with the extra, and they came out the same consistency. So if you want some pumpkin fudge, this is the way to go.

But regardless of if you use this recipe, you all need to get these bowls. I can’t wait to use it more and more once we get past this first stage of food. We started oatmeal this weekend, and these work great to heat that up in the microwave.

If you want to find more out about these bowls, visit their site here. We love this company, and we know you would too!

We did receive receive this bowl complimentary for testing purposes as an Oogaa Brand Partner. All thoughts and opinions are mine, and George’s of course!

Have you tried Oogaa products? What would you like to use from their line?

Verses Close to My Heart

My dear friend recently had a daily challenge for a week where she showed her favorite Bible verses. Each day she would “tag” friends to take up the challenge. She tagged me, and I of course did not do it. So here I am trying to make up for it!

IMG_0654 (1024x683)Instead of doing a daily post, I am just going to share my 10 favorite verses/passages here. These are verses that keep me motivated or that I find comfort in. These are in no particular order.

IMG_0705 (683x1024)1. Colossians 3: 12-14 (This was our wedding passage.)

  • 12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

2. Philippians 4: 6-7

  • Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

3. Hebrews 12: 1-2

  • 12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

4. Psalm 73:26

  • My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

5. Ruth 1:16

  • Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.

6. Isaiah 46: 4

  • Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.

7. Romans 5: 8

  • But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

8. Matthew 5:14

  • You are the light of the world.

9. 1 Peter 1:6

  •  In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.

10. Proverbs 31:25

  • She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.

IMG_0663 (1024x683)These are all verses that provide me hope and strength. The Bible is the ultimate motivational poster and a guide for life. These are verses that are currently providing me faith and encouragement during this time of my life. There are others that I find valuable and may be my favorites in different circumstances or stages in my life. I think the important thing is using the Bible for enrichment and purpose as we struggle to figure out how to be as human as possible and walk as He taught us.

My favorite Biblical stories are those of Joseph and of Ruth. These stories are not confined to a single verse for me, but the messages that those passages give us are ones that I think about often.

I also wanted to share this small business that designs shirts with a focus on positive sayings like this “Jesus Loves Me” shirt that George is wearing. They are super soft! I want to wrap myself up in this tshirt. And I love the simplicity and positivity! She also has necklaces for kids and moms. You can find out more at Love Blooms Here!

IMG_0680 (683x1024)What are your favorite verses? Do we share any?

Fit for Me 10/52

Has it really been 10 weeks since I started this challenge? Wow.

What I did last week:

Thursday-10 minutes on the row machine…HOLY MOLY what a burn. 20 minutes on the elliptical.

Sunday-We took advantage of the beautiful weather and took the kids on a walk. The dogs have been needing more time outside so it was nice to finally be able to get out with the temps not freezing.

Tuesday-30 minutes on the elliptical.

Impressed by:

Making it to 10 minutes on the rowing machine. I wanted to stop at 5.

Struggled with:

My period has come back with a vengeance so I had to sit out from the exercise game due to being in pure agony.

Did I meet my goal from last week?

I tackled the rowing machine! I am not sure if it was like a beast, or if it was the beast. Either way, it was an intense 10 minutes. It has been a long time since I have been on a row machine, and apparently I forgot how it hits everything so I was a little shocked at first that I couldn’t do more than 10 minutes.

What is my goal for next week?

To work out at least 5 days. I have been struggling a little bit, so I need a little goal motivation. Plus I will be going on a road trip at the tail end of next week, so I need to make this week count!

Fitness Thoughts:

I have seen some positive improvements, but the process is slow. I still struggle at times getting out the door or remembering to do at-home workouts. The thing about fitness, unless it is your job, you really have to decide to make it a priority every day. It is not a one time decision. If you want to see changes in the long run it has to be a habit that makes it into your every day in some way. I think that is hard for anyone to find that time, but also the balance that it won’t become a chore. I think that is why so many people struggle with fitness. It is so easy to push it out of your day. So easy. As a working mom, there are so many other things that I could be doing, but should I be? I mean really does my kitchen need to be clean?I need to remember to make a conscious effort to move a little more every day. It definitely takes a re-framing of your mind every day.

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