(Re)Member Mommy

Today, George is 3 and a half.


He is always saying to me “Member, Mommy. Insert random instructions he has for me.” He uses his pointer finger to emphasize the importance.

I do want to remember. I want to remember how quirky and fun he is. I want to remember how sweet and caring he is. I want to remember him at three.


I wish you all could meet him in person. He is the best little boy. He is such a gift every day.


Here is a small glimpse of our perfect little man with an “interview” with him. We told him that we needed to talk, and he turns to me and said, “Ok, Mommy. I need to talk to you too.”


What’s your name? Georgie, Georgie Winter George (He will sometimes say his full name…George Lawson Whitener)
How old are you? four (Uhhh…)
What is your favorite color? Blue
What is your favorite animal? A gray animal like an elephant
What is your favorite book? The George Book (No idea what this book is.)
What is your favorite TV show? Team Umizoomi
What is your favorite food? chicken (Interesting because about 50% of the time he does not eat it.)
What is your favorite drink? Shake
What is your favorite breakfast food? peanut butter balls and milk
What is your favorite snack? milk (He would drink his meals if we let him.)
What is your favorite toy? Little People (These are old Fisher Price toys. He loves making a city and doing all the people.)
What is your favorite activity? To make paper flowers
What is your favorite tool? The hammer hitting tool
What do you like to do with Sister? hold her
Who is your best friend? Daddy
What is your favorite thing to do outside? Play with my firetruck
What is your favorite holiday? I want Christmas to come back.
What do you like to take to bed with you at night? Kirby
What do you want to be when you grow up? I want to stay home.


So many people have warned us about age three, but I have absolutely adored him at this age. I love talking with him and seeing him making connections to ideas. My favorite time of day is when we are doing our night-time prayers and we process the day together. He is so smart and learning with him is so refreshing.


Yes he is a toddler who is super in tune with emotions, but I hope that we can continue to encourage him using those emotions to connect with people. He definitely wears all his emotions on his sleeve. He never ceases to amaze me about how he cares for others and wants to make sure we are all okay. More often than not he has to check on everyone in the house before he feels ok going to bed. He professes his love for us all the time. It’s these little moments that give me so much excitement, and I hope he never loses that ability (and carefreeness) to be open with his feelings. And he seriously gives the best hugs.


His imagination is one of a kind. He does voices and really thinks through what would happen in his make believe scenarios. (However, he likes to boss you around if you play with him. You have been warned.) And his ability to stick with an activity seems unreal for a kid his age.


He is always a little wild, and he is always going full-speed. He is all in all the time. Some days this can be difficult to harness, but I do love this quality about him. And my gosh, he is so funny.


This boy-he is a gem. ‘Member that.

Daphne-9 Months


Weight:  18 lbs. She feels so big this month. She isn’t my squishy little newborn anymore.

Health: She has been a little congested this month, but who hasn’t? I know I said last month that I thought she was teething, and I still feel that way. Other than a little fussiness with the congestion, she has been pretty good.


Diet: Amazingly, we are still going strong with the breastfeeding.  I nurse her in the morning and before bed. Then she has two breastmilk bottles and one formula bottle during the day while I am at work. On the weekends, for the most part we avoid the formula and nurse the whole time. She seems to fight me more on the weekends though and generally only nurses for 5 minutes. I know she is getting more regular food, so I am not super worried about it. However it does affect my supply when I go back to work on Mondays. I do still pump once before she goes to bed every day to kee up with the two 5 oz bottles she has during the week. Usually, she has oatmeal or yogurt for breakfast, eggs and fruit for lunch, and then a sample of whatever we are having at dinner. She has tried all kinds of new things:  kiwi, nectarines, beans, yogurt, plums, peas, pepers, zucchini, meatballs, and puffs. Move over mashed potatoes, her favorite food is yogurt. We are doing a baby led weaning approach, but she does purees when we give her packets. She is a really good eater! She eats actual meals now, and often eats more than George does.


Clothes: I just put away 3-6 month clothes today to transition her up to 6 months. She is in a size 3 diaper, and size 2 shoe.

Sleeping:  This month she must be going through some sleep regression, or this teething has been hard if it’s that. She still does take two naps, but they are unpredictable in length. Sometimes they can be 2.5 hours, and other days they are only 30 minutes. Daph will go to bed around 8pm, and she has been waking up between 4 and 5 lately. This isn’t a huge deal on the weekend, but it severely affects me during the week. By the time I nurse her, I don’t have very much time before my alarm is supposed to go off. I am still getting about 6 hours, so in the scheme of baby parent sleep, it’s not so bad.


Likes:  She LOVES to eat. Her favorite toys are still the Dory pez dispenser and the oogaa teether. We had to buy her a new Dory because she broke the first one. She loves to bounce. She will do it while you are holding her, in her high chair, in her activity seat, basically anywhere. She is starting to like her walker a lot more too. She still only likes the green newborn pacies. She adores her brother. She also is facinated by hair and wants to pull it all the time. She loves to be tipped upside down. Some of the best giggles are this way!


Dislikes:  She does not like to sit still; this girl is always on the go. It is getting increasingly more difficult to take her picture. She is not really snuggly.  She does not like getting her nose/face wiped.


Milestones: She is very good at pulling up on things now. She can stand on her own very briefly. She can get from sitting to crawling on her own. She is saying “Mama.” (For the record, George said Mama first too!)


Nicknames: Stinkerbug, Daphie, Daffodil, and Daphie Girl. The two most common are Daph and Sister.


Quirks:  She is still pretty much unimpressed with most people. It will be interesting to watch this play out when she gets older. She likes to stick her thumb in the pacy and suck on both at the same time. She also whistles. I wish I could get it on camera, but of course she stops when I try.


We parents are:  in need of a vacation. Tom has been on evening shift, which is the absolute worst for us as a family. It will be nice to have him back here soon and reconnect. Since my promotion, I have been putting in extra time at work because I am practically in meetings all day. Now I understand why a lot of directors work from home some. There just isn’t enough time in the week to get it all done. Don’t get me wrong, I am extremely happy about the promotion. I am enjoying the new responsibilities and seeing things from a different perspective, but hopefully, maybe, they will start to even out where I have time to follow up on things in my office. We are hiring a new staff member soon, so that will definitely help lessen the load a bit. We got a treadmill this month, which has been life changing as far as my workout routines go. I am one of those weird people that loves treadmills. Put on a TV show and just hammer it out. I am slowly decluttering different rooms in the house, which has been really freeing to get done.


George is:  such an amazing big brother. Most of the time he is really gentle with her, but he is getting a little bossy with her now that she is mobile. He is not so keen on her playing with whatever toy she can get her hands on which is usually one of his cars or little people. Normally he just starts tattling on her and tells me to move her away now. He still calls her his best friend and has to tuck her in at night, so I think the adoration is mutual. He is starting to pick out his own clothes, and dress himself completely. This is hilarious but also nails on the chalboard for me since they often don’t match and are put on the wrong way. Nothing tests your patience more than watching a toddler learn how to dress themselves…

The dogs are: loving the random days of warm weather. They just seem so much happier when they can get outside. They are also loving that Daph is eating more food. They are such good high chair cleaners!


She now has been out of the womb longer than she was in it.

Here is George at this age.

Daphne-8 Months


Weight:  16 lbs. She is still little, but she is growing! We love our little Daffodil!

Health: This month has been rough in Daphne’s world. She had her first ear infection. She got a bad cough right before Christmas. I am fairly certain she is cutting a tooth right now, because she has been really fussy and not sleeping so great on and off.


Diet: We are still going strong with the breastfeeding.  I nurse her in the morning and before bed. Then she has two breastmilk bottles and one formula bottle during the day while I am at work. On the weekends, for the most part we avoid the formula and nurse the whole time. Usually, she has a fruit/veggie packet for breakfast, oatmeal for lunch, and then a sample of whatever we are having at dinner. She has tried all kinds of new things:  turkey, pasta, oranges, quinoa, black beans, crackers, and she can eat a whole fruit/veggie packet on her own so she has tried a lot of new flavors that way. Her favorite is still mashed potatoes. We are doing mostly a baby led weaning approach, but we have done some purees mostly by way of the packets. She gets really impatient when food isn’t getting to her fast enough, and she still isn’t super great with her pincer grasp, so again she can get frustrated easily. We just have to remind ourselves that she isn’t eating to get nutrition right now, and we are fully in the exploratory stages.


Clothes: She is mostly in 3-6 month clothes. She can fit into some 6 month sleepers, and most of her pants are 6 months. She is in a size 3 diaper, and size 1 shoe.


Sleeping:  We started using the Zipadee-Zip because she was rolling over in everything else and not happy about the freedom. It has been great. We have had a couple nights where her sleep has been bad but that was because she had the ear infection and is teething. The nights she doesn’t sleep though are so rough for us since we are so used to her good sleep habits. She also hates to snuggle and when she is around anyone else it means it is time to be awake and alert so co-sleeping is not an option when she has a bad night. She still has two naps a day, but the length can vary. When all is right, she goes to bed around 8pm and stays asleep until 6ish am. She hardly ever sleeps past 7am. We have been so lucky that she has been a great sleeper!


Likes:  Eating. I’m still the ultimate pacifier for her. She loves her Dory pez dispenser and her Oogaa teethers. She loves tickles and raspberries on her neck. She is obsessed with George; he can get the biggest smiles out of her. She loves jumping in her saucer. We tried putting her in her walker and jumper, both which we think she would love. However, she is still so little that the seats kind of swallow her up. She loves dancing whether it be when you are holding her or when you do it in front of her.


Dislikes:  She isn’t fond of baths or diaper changes. She is starting to roll around when I change her, which is a super fun development. She hates the bumbo; she just tries to turn around in the thing. She is terrified of the vacuum.


Milestones: She can stand when she is holding on to something. She can’t get there on her own yet though. She enjoyed her first Christmas and New Years. She can drink out of straws. She loves drinking out of my cups and is always clamoring to get them, and she has her own little camel back now that she drinks water out of. She sort of waves at you. It is more of a gimme signal, but it is in response to waves.


Nicknames: Chunker Cheeks, Daphie, and Daphie Girl. The two most common are Daph and Sister. George actually says her name, but he pronounces it as Naphne. 

Quirks:  She is very hard to impress and she makes you work for her smiles. Oh but when she does smile, it can light up a room.


We parents are:  tired. It has been a long taxing month. We both have been putting in extra time at work, which creates for long days. Then we all came down with a bug after Christmas. Thank God my mom is here, otherwise I don’t know how we would have gotten through those couple days. Tom’s grandma passed away this past weekend, so that has been emotionally taxing on everyone. Grammy was such a sweet sassy lady. She always treated me like I had always been one of her grandchildren, and she is one of the few people Daph would smile for without much work. She is going to be greatly missed, and it has been hard to see this loss for Tom and my in-laws.


George is:  doing great. I just can’t get over how great of a big brother he is. He is very helpful and kind to her for the most part. We have been dealing with him stealing her pacy and hiding in corners sucking on it himself. He also struggles a little bit now that she can crawl and get toys that he is playing with. He doesn’t quite understand that some toys are hers, and the idea of sharing is sometimes lost on him. He does insist on putting her to bed every night. If for some reason I put her to bed without him, he will walk in her room anyway after lights are out to tell her goodnight. 


The dogs are:


I cannot believe that 8 months have passed with this sweet little nugget.

Here is George at this age.

Hopeful For 2018

As I mentioned the other day, 2017 brought me some of my greatest joys but also some of the scariest things our family has had to endure.


As we start 2018, I am hopeful for so much.

I am hopeful for growth.

Growth in spirit, growth in my job, growth as a parent and wife. I want to wake up a better person than I was the day before.

I am hopeful for my children.


It can be scary when you turn on the news and having the pressure to raise human beings in our current world. But never before have we had the resources that we do now, and I am hopeful that we can use that for good. I look forward to seeing who these two are meant to be. They are my greatest joys, and I want to help encourage these tiny wonders to be world changers.

I am hopeful for my marriage.

Dare I say it that this is the year for boring marriage life? We aren’t having a baby, moving, changing jobs, or doing major construction. It is year seven for us, and I am ready to continue strengthening our relationship in this boring, but great, life we have created. We have been together for more than a decade, but there are always ways for us to grow more in our partnership.


I am hopeful to be present.

Life is moving so fast. Faster than I would like most days. Our calendars are constantly full of things to do, and these babies of mine are growing much too quickly without my permission. I hope that this year, I can take a breath and soak up this time when they are little and my life is so beautiful.


I am hopeful to get my body and health back.

I am not growing a human being, and here in the next few months I more than likely will be done feeding that human being. So my body will be fully mine again. I want to get back into shape, and be the healthiest I can be for my family. I also hope that I get my core strength back so I don’t have to be afraid of peeing my pants every time I cough or sneeze. #momtruth

2018 has so much potential. I don’t want to get in a rut and just go through the motions. This is our one life. I am hoping for the best out of this year.


What are you hopeful for in 2018?


In 2017

This has been a year.

It has been awhile since I have blogged just to blog because of this year.


There has been tremendous gaines and losses.

There have been things that I never imagined happening to us, and yet there were things that I have prayed for my entire life.

It has been a year.

Here’s to hoping that I can come back to this space more in 2018. For now, here were my top posts of 2017.

  • The Days Following Daphne-This is the horrific part of Daphne’s birth story. I had forgotten some of the details. I also have started getting baby fever and sad about the fact of being done having children, so this was good for me to read again.
  • Daphne’s Birth Story-She came so quickly once we got the party started. I remember being at peace that day knowing even before going to my appointment that I would be meeting her by the end of that week. It’s hard to believe it has been over 7 months with her.
  • My Reality-I feel so grateful that I was able to get through this pregnancy without being on bedrest.
  • And We’re Having A…-I still love how we announced we were having a girl. And my how George has changed. He has such a baby face in these photos!
  • This is Hard-Looking back, Daphne has been such an easy baby. However, it has been hard at times to go to work knowing I am missing parts of them.

Most of my posts this year were about the pregnancy and our life with Daphne.

This next year is already shaping up to hold new experiences and watching these kiddos will always be my favorite thing.