Go Big or Go Home

As Tom and I are days away from become a family of three, and thanks to all this bed rest, I have a lot of time to think about the kind of family I hope we have.

I think about eating dinner together and talking about our days.

I think about family camping trips.

I think about game nights.

I also think about the example that I want to set for my kids and the type of parent I want to be.

Yes there is some anxiety that seeps into my head about what kind of family we’ll have or if I will be a good parent. It probably wouldn’t be normal if a new parent wasn’t afraid of being good at it, right?

But then I look at things that my husband does, and I know that I have the best partner in this journey to make our family matter. There is a calm that washes over me when I see him want to make a difference in this world.

This week in all the hoopla of ALS awareness and the Ice Bucket Challenge, Tom wanted to spotlight another disease that is fairly unknown.

Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy

We have had the great honor to get to know one particular family who deal with DMD every day. I have written about this family before (here and here).

The way that we have seen them support each other and rally around each other is awesome. They make time to be real. They make time to play and laugh. They pick each other up (literally and figuratively) in down times because that is what you do with family.

Tom reached out to them this week to see how much T.J. weighs. He had the brilliant idea of helping “carry the weight” because we know that is a big part of this disease. Duchenne is a disease that breaks down the body and makes that person rely heavily on the help of others as their own physical strength diminishes. Their weight needs to be carried. Think about all the things you do every day like climb stairs and open doors; all of these things are becoming increasingly more difficult for this young boy to do as he ages.

At first I thought Tom was crazy for his idea of carrying T.J’s weight around for 5 days. I thought about all the things we had to do this week, and wondered whether it would be a burden for him physically to shoulder 70 lbs for that amount of time.

He just brushed it off and said people need to know about this. So why not? (Way to knock me down a few on the humbling pegs…)

“Do not neglect the gift that you have.” 1 Timothy 4:14

Tom wanted to make a stand for this family and this movement to end Duchenne. And Tom never does things so so. It is always go big or go home. He wanted to make a statement for a family that has impacted us tremendously and let them know they aren’t alone.

(Excuse me while I wipe away the proud wife tears….)

He chose to carry this weight for 5 days, and wants to challenge others to do it for just one. Duchenne is something that needs awareness and people to support the trials for a cure, but more importantly people to fight for the boys who are being affected.

It has been interesting watching reactions of people during the last 5 days when he explains the backpack full of weights. Him having it at our latest hospital visit was a trip. It sure is making people think.

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It’s moments like these I feel so proud to have him as my husband and father to our kids. It’s moments like these that I know he is going to have a blast being a parent. So yea maybe he isn’t the greatest at loading the dishwasher, but he is the greatest at making the big things matter.

(And who am I kidding…I act like the dirty dishes don’t exist most days.)

Tom is always collecting little Army and outdoorsy gadgets so he can show the boys. The excitement I see him have when he talks about giving TJ a small fold-out chair, may seem meaningless to others, but to me it means the world. I know that there is joy every time we visit as the boys ambush Tom with some sort of nerf weapon. Although, I am sure their parents aren’t as thrilled when Tom comes over planning to teach them how to build booby traps. Boys will be boys right?

As I have watched Tom over the time we have known TJ, I have been blown away by the small things. Here are two individuals that were randomly placed in each others lives. They impact each other on so many different levels, which in turn impacts those around them. There was a purpose that we have come to be a part of their lives. I know that Tom is never looking for attention or hero status when he visits with TJ, but with his actions, he is becoming part of something so much bigger than himself.

Tom and TJ bring joy to each other lives. And for some fleeting moments, you are able to forget all the weight of life. The smiles that we all get to enjoy are unexplainable.

And that is a great moment to live for.

TJ and his family give something to us too. We have loved learning from this family about strength, humility, compassion, and love. They have been excellent role models for Tom and I.

Maybe you don’t have a family like this in your life. However, I hope that everyone can find something in this world that matters to them, and they can pass along the good to others. We were all given a reason to be here, no matter how little we may feel some days. Even little gestures can have huge impacts. There are a lot of things weighing us all down at times. We all have our burdens, but yet we all have our gifts to give. Think about the dramatic changes we can make if we make small choices to help others carry their weight for a minute, hours, or even days.

So in these days where our Facebook walls are covered with ice water videos, I urge you to be inspired to join the crowd and to do something. That could be partaking in the challenges for these charities; it could be by donating your time or money. It could be by simply starting a conversation with a random person in the grocery store with a smile.

But I think that the important thing is to DO something. Find your way to use your gifts to reach out to someone. We all have a purpose, and are we willing to answer that call?

Be someone who can inspire good and change for the better.

That is the kind of parent I hope to be. And I feel blessed knowing that IS the kind of parent Tom will be.

I think I will keep him around.

If you want to learn more about Duchenne and how you can help go here and here.

36 Week Bumpdate

Week 36

How far along: 36 weeks…He will be here in less than a month!

Sex of Baby W: He is all boy. We saw his little turtle. Also the old wives tale about little boys drying out your hands may be true. My hands have been so dry like it is the middle of winter.

Weight gain: I have gained 19 pounds. I feel gross from sitting all the time. I am packing on the pounds now, and feel like a chunky monkey. Also people are really judgy about pregnancies. Last week at one of our check ups there was a woman who mocked me for going to the bathroom several times while we waited. She said to Tom that I had no idea what it was like to be pregnant like her at 21 weeks and to just wait for what my bladder will feel like when I am farther along. First of all, I know that I am smaller, but I know that I at least look like I am 20 weeks…And secondly, I am much further along than you, and I definitely know what it feels like to be pregnant while I sit on the toilet every 45 minutes. While there are common things about pregnancies, people really need to remember that each of us will have a different experience and never say “You don’t know what it is like to be pregnant.” Do you not see this bump?

Size of Baby W: He weighs 5 lbs and 13 oz. He is closing in on how much I weighed when I was born (6 lbs and 4 oz). He should be about the size of a head of lettuce right now. We have another ultra sound this afternoon to see how much he has changed in the last week. He was in the 41% last week, which is way better than the beginning of July when he was in the 13%. If he would have been below 10%, George may have come last week…We need him to keep bulking.

Maternity clothes: Since I am no longer working, I wear yoga pants and t-shirts all the time. Also putting pants on is hard friends. I can’t really bend over nicely or I lose my balance so I have to sit on the bed to put on pants.

Baby items: We did our big discount trip with our registry last week, so we still have a few items trickling in from those shipments. We have been having fun playing with the baby monitor the past couple days. If you want to see more of our nursery you can see my posts herehere, and here. I also will have a few more things to show in the upcoming weeks so stay tuned!

Stretch marks: Nothing so far.

Belly button in or out: I have a flattie still, but it looks like it is expanding. Sometimes though it dips back down.

Sleep: I actually have been sleeping pretty well the past few weeks. I feel like I am barricaded by pillows, but I do a pretty good job of staying asleep most nights. There are only a few nights where I have to get up to pee.

Best moment the past few weeks: George passing all of his tests and getting to see how big he is during our ultrasound.

Worst moment the past few weeks: Being diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and all the hospital visits. I have been to the hospital 4 times in the last 3 weeks and had 4 separate doctor’s visits. My blood pressure is basically sky-rocketing and I have protein in my pee, which means my liver is not doing what it is supposed to be doing. Pre-eclampsia happens to many women during pregnancy, and there really is no rhyme or reason why you get it. I never had high blood pressure before in my life. The concern though is that if it is not monitored it can turn into eclampsia which causes seizures, which you can guess is super bad for baby. Luckily my blood tests are coming back normal so we are still in the just monitoring phase, but this is something that could change fast and without me noticing. The thing is I feel fine, so it is hard to know what your BP is doing. That is why it is called the silent killer. Not terrifying at all for someone who is supposed to keep her blood pressure down right? So I am on bed rest to hopefully keep things calm. However, what bed rest does is just give me time to focus on all the bad things that could happen and stress myself out! We go in twice a week for two different tests now. One test is a non-stress test where George has to move so many times in a 20 minute period and they watch his heart-rate to make sure it is reacting properly. He has passed the two we have had so far. They call him a happy baby every time, which makes me happy. The second test is with an ultrasound, and again George is being tested. They check for several different things that he does to make sure he is growing on track. The only thing he didn’t pass was the practicing breathing. The doctor said this is pretty normal since they aren’t doing this around the clock, and she has seen him hiccup in other appointments. He did enough of the activities to pass the entire test though, so that is a bonus. Because he is doing well in there, we are trying to keep him in the incubator just a little longer and will monitor my body for any other issues. We will not be making it to our due date (Sept 15th) though, and we will be induced at least by 39 weeks if it doesn’t happen naturally otherwise. It may be earlier if I keep sucking on my tests. Hopefully we can at least make it to next week because 37 weeks is more of a safe zone for a delivery. I just need to get myself under control, but it looks like he will be an early September or late August baby! The doctor is pretty hopefully that we will still be able to do everything naturally (besides the induction part to get it started), which is great because I want to avoid a c-section if I can. We have been really blessed with the amazing care we have received throughout the entire ordeal. It’s just all a little stressful to sit and wait and hope for the best.

Miss anything: Not being confined to my couch. I also miss seat belts fitting normally. The way it lays now because of the belly, it cuts off my boob and feels like it is strangling me. Also I miss my boobs not touching my belly. I don’t have big boobs at all, so this has been VERY weird and uncomfortable to get used to. Like seriously, boob sweat is awful….

Cravings: I haven’t really had any the past few weeks.

Movement: He is pretty active still. He normally perks up a little more after I eat. I can also play with him a little if I am concerned about him, so he is really reactive to people pushing him around (which is great for all these tests). It was also fun to actually see his foot that he likes to push in the same spot on my right side during the ultrasound. You never really know what body part that is that is poking you, so it was cool to see it was indeed that big foot of his. He also favors sitting on my right side more than the left, which has made for some pretty awkward belly shapes the bigger he gets. Lately, he has been getting hiccups so hard that they hurt me a little bit. He also gets hiccups a couple times a day now.

Symptoms/how I am feeling: Besides going stir crazy due to this bed rest, I have had a few other issues that are related to the pre-eclampsia. I have had some blurred vision and headaches. I also have had some upper abdominal pain, which is what has sent me to the hospital a couple times just to be safe. I have been pretty lucky that I haven’t had any swelling though.

Looking forward to: Little man making his debut! I can’t believe it is almost here! Our plan is to have everything George ready by the end of this weekend. We are almost there! We also had to move our maternity pictures since Tom had staff duty the day we were supposed to have them. Thank you last minute planning Army. I really hope we make it that long to have them on our rescheduled date!

36 weeks

Since we aren’t sure how much time we have left, this may be my last update. Depending on how much notice we have, I will try to do one last update before we deliver. But no promises friends.

Tom and I were having a conversation about whether he would come on his due date a few weeks ago before all this induction talk went down. However, I said, “Do you think he will come on his birthday?” Tom replied, “I assure you he will come on his birthday.” Apparently I was already throwing the due date out the window…

Fabric Covered Boxes

I showed our lovely shelves yesterday. Once they were made, I realized we didn’t have enough boxes to make it look how I wanted pattern wise. Our Walmart didn’t sell orange ones, and I didn’t want to wait to purchase them on Amazon.

So after consulting Pinterest, I got the idea to just make my own fabric box.

We had so much of the elephant print left over, so I figured it would tie everything around the room together a little more. And diaper boxes make the perfect cubbies.

So really, I didn’t feel like I spent any money on these since the funds were allotted initially elsewhere. Plus these diapers were a gift, so really it’s even better!

Also this was a project to keep my bed rest behind preoccupied but still sitting.

Here is how I made them.

Supplies:  box, fabric of choice, hot glue gun

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First you need a box. Diaper boxes are the perfect size, but I am sure we all have gotten packages that hold equally perfect status.

I did not cut off the top flaps which others may do. We decided that it would make it a little sturdier to just fold and glue the flaps down inside the box. It’s not like they can be seen anyway.

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Then you want to cut out 4 squares of your fabric that fit the sides of the boxes. You will want to leave a little overlap on all sides so make them slightly bigger than each side you are measuring.

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I started with gluing the bottom first. See how the fabric hangs over the sides?

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Once the glue on the bottom is set, you flip the box and pull the fabric tight to glue it over the inside of the box. Be careful to make sure that the fabric is smooth before you start gluing, so it is really important to work fast with the hot glue gun.

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Then you will glue the overlap on the sides. I cut the fabric diagonally at the corners so it would lay more flat and you don’t have a lot of extra bunching happening. You will do this on the inside flaps as well. Basically just make sure all the edges of this square is glued down before you move to the next square.

You want to do the two parallel sides in a row:  example front and back first.

Once you have those two sides done, the next two are a little different.

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You will fold the extra fabric over first before you glue it on the box. This make it have smooth lines and make sure everything is covered neatly. It just makes for more even seams instead of jagged cut fabric, because we all know you can’t cut fabric perfectly straight or without frays. I just lined it up to the box and then glued anything that was extra over.

Once you do this, you will start from gluing the bottom down and then pulling it over the top just like the first two sides.

I then hot glued down the seams to make sure they stayed down.

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Hopefully you can see what I mean about the seams being flat. Since these are the sides, I wasn’t too anal about making the fabric line up perfectly pattern wise. I did try to make them as close as possible. Knowing that they will not be seen as much, it was not much of a priority.

One other thing to note, you could see the Pampers logo through the fabric where the elephants were. So I first glued down some off-white card-stock to cover the logos so it wouldn’t show through the completed project. You may want to check for this before you start gluing things down to make sure you don’t have the same problem with your fabric of choice.

Let me know if you have questions. Because you have to work fast with the hot glue, some of these pictures aren’t the best with explaining. Sorry!

It is a really easy project, and I finished two boxes in a half hour.

No thanks to the dogs enthusiasm…

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While doing my research on how to make these, I saw that other people added straps, bows, and whatnots to theirs. I wasn’t going to go that in depth on it. But now that I know how easy this is to do, I may just save diaper boxes that have yet to be opened to try more elaborate coverings.

For now, I think they are perfect for the nursery!

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Have you tried covering boxes like this? How much do you use Pinterest to decorate your house?

Top Shelf Pick

Finding baby furniture can be somewhat depressing when you start looking at the price tags. Why does something so little need things that cost so much?

We had wanted to find a dresser that we could redo into a changing table. After going to most of the thrift stores in town and looking online at various options, we kept coming up empty. Even at thrift stores, dressers were costing up in the 300 to 400 range.

So we settled on making shelving units ourselves to fit our need, which we saved so much. We were able to spend about $200 for two full shelving units that were exactly what we wanted.

Plus then we get to have these handmade items to pass on to our kids. I still have the bookshelf my dad made for me when I was a kid, so I love the fact that we will have personal touches to add to our kid’s lives.

I am just going to let the pictures do most of the talking.

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We splurged on the paint to make sure it was a little higher quality knowing it was going in a kid’s room.

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We stained the tops of the shelves and then used the gloss to make them smooth and easier for cleaning (which should be a consideration for something we will be changing dirty diapers on).

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These were the tops.

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All of the wood.

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Frame for unit one

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frame for unit 2

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They are pretty similar, but these legs are just one little touch that makes them different.

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Tom sanded the tops to make them extra smooth. Then he used a router to make a rounded smooth edge.

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I helped with the painting, but you don’t need pictures of the big ol belly struggling to reach corners.

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Here is the changing table. The boxes hold everything from clothes to diapers and bath stuff. We got the solid fabric boxes off of Amazon with our registry, but they also sell them at Walmart. The elephant print box I made. I will have a tutorial here soon!

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This is the extra bookshelf for all the knick knacks.

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I love that Tom is so handy and can make these things happen.

The nice thing is that these can change easily to change for whatever the need is. So if we get more books for example, we can change the arrangement of things. I tried several dozen variations of things before I settled on where things are now. With the boxes you can change the patterns up easily!

We were a little nervous about all the white, but I love how clean and simple it looks.

Now we just need to hang things on the wall and put a rug down, and I think this nursery is complete! The goal is to have everything in place by this weekend, so hopefully we can make that happen considering my bed rest limitations.

Also, I am guest posting for my friend Tiffany today! Check it out here!

 

Friday Filter: A Tribute To Robin Williams

Robin Williams was a huge player in my childhood. He played roles in movies that my brother and I would watch on repeat.

This week millions of us were saddened by his death. It is tragic that a man that brought smiles to so many was suffering so much.

It brings to mind that you never really know the trials that a person faces so always be kind.

To honor his life, I thought I would just share my favorite movies in his vast repertoire.

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He was the voice of Genie in the Aladdin series. This was a house favorite, and we knew all the words. Never had a friend like me.

He made me wonder if any of our board games would come alive when watching Jumanji. What would it be like to live amongst wild animals?

In Dead Poets Society, he inspired me in my teaching endeavors. Every day is another day to come alive and be something.

We all need to remember to have a child like spirit and enjoy life as he learned in Hook. And who doesn’t love screaming “RUFIOOOO?”

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My all time favorites are Mrs. Doubtfire and Patch Adams.

I don’t think I really have words to express how I love these movies.

Mrs. Doubtfire came out when I was in elementary school, and I felt like I could relate so much since my parents were divorced. His antics in the movie were like a hug and always brought a smile to my face. My favorite scene has got to be the cake face mask.

Patch Adams is a fantastic film also showing me how laughter and positivity can do wonders for the soul. My favorite scene is when he makes himself into a clown using medical equipment for the kids.

The way that he acted reached deep inside our hearts. He was brilliant. His flare is something that cannot be matched.

I am sad that he couldn’t be healed by the laughter, and I hope that his family finds peace at this time.

What were your favorite Robin Williams films? Do we share any?