Talks with Tom #13

This past weekend we traveled back to Missouri for a friend’s wedding. It was beautiful, and it was great to see some friends from Iowa. I have been really homesick for my Ames people, so it was fun to catch up with a few of them for a bit.

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I miss having friends in my office all the time!
(And Tom and I missed the purple memo, but it is ok. We matched in our mature primaries.)

It has gotten a little cooler here, which for me affects my “driving” clothes. Usually I will hop in a car in shorts or comfy running pants and a tshirt. With the temps dropping, my winter driving gear is usually jeans and a tshirt/hoodie.

Tom however is always in shorts.

Always.

Tom loves wearing shorts. He doesn’t really every wear long pants unless it is a special occasion or when he is being mandated. He believes that he should dress for the temperature inside since he wont be outside very long. So you will find my husband in shorts and flip flops all year round. He is all about the maximum amount of comfort.

We were in a mad hunt this weekend several times for his ranger panties. Oh you don’t know what those are? They are shorts that basically show off a man’s leg, and they have the inner liner (panty). They are also made of a silky thin material (panty). Think of 80s men’s basketball shorts or track shorts. Because they are so small, they get lost easily. We thought the dogs may have eaten them at one point this weekend. It was serious people.

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They do make their legs look super nice. And I gotta say, it is fun to watch these Army men push people’s clothing social normities. The things people have called Tom because of these shorts is both funny and awful.

Anyway, naturally I was complaining about it being too cold on the drive home.

Tom- “Yea, I had to bring the winter shorts.”

They are maybe a couple inches of fabric longer than the ranger panties. Shorts are meant for summer to me no matter the length, but even 6 years later I am still laughing at Tom’s perception and infatuation of shorts

He did wear pants for the special occasion this weekend.

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I like that the woman behind me is my color block opposite. Love the mature primaries (cardinal, navy, and gold)!

Happy Wedding to Chris and Krystal!

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Fun fact, Tom and Chris were in Scouts together. Then I worked with him at Iowa State not knowing until his first day on the job that he knew my husband’s family. Small world!

Proud to Be

My husband has always wanted to be an Army man.

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Tom as a kid playing in his Grandpa’s old Army helmet.

I know he had considered going after high school, but he choose to head to Warrensburg to start the normal track of a college freshmen. While I was in grad school, we had talked about the service, but in the end Tom decided to finish college and see where that took him. Once we were in Iowa, his job situation was not panning out as quickly as we had hoped and the thought of the military came up again. We went back and forth making the decision on whether Tom would enlist. It is not an easy decision for anyone to make and we made pro/con lists for months. It is not a decision that we took lightly, especially when we made this decision we had only been married for a hot minute.

But as you can see, Tom has always felt a calling to serving his country. So not even 6 months into our marriage, Tom took an oath to serve our nation.

This was the time for the Army. Every time before there was something else that he was destined to do. If he had joined before now, he would not have finished that degree. If he had gone after high school, we would not have met at Worlds of Fun that fateful summer. If he had gone during grad school, our relationship (eh maybe just me) at the time was not strong enough to endure the stress of the military. This time around, there was nothing holding him back. He was ready; we were ready.

I could not be prouder of the things that Tom has done in the last year and half as an American soldier. He put so many things on hold to fight for the things that he believes in the most.

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He is not one to let others fight his own battle, and he puts in everything he has to fulfill his duty. He would do anything for his unit, which as his wife can be terrifying because I know that he would give his life to save any one of those men.

But that gusto, courage, and confidence are the things that I am proud of. I am married to a great man, a brave man, a sweet man, an Army man.

And yesterday, I got to share him with the elementary school his sister works at. They had a Veteran’s assembly, and Tom was asked to speak since the school knew about him from sponsoring him during his deployment the year before.

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If I was proud before, I was in tears proud of watching him be the keynote speaker for those kids. Yes I am that blubbering wife. It also did not help that I was sitting next to the sweetest little old Vietnam vet as well. And they played taps and a hero memorial montage video, I mean really how was I supposed to keep a dry eye?

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We were able to see TJ there as well. Tom made him “his guest” to the reception they had for families, which meant he got out of class for about 10 minutes to eat cupcakes. Awesome!

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Tom and TJ.

We also got to hang out with our little niece a lot this weekend. And of course the relationship between Tom and Ava is priceless.

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Yes, Tom smashed her face in her cupcake. After a moment of pouty face, she dug into the cupcake like nothing happened.

We had a great weekend back home, and it was great to see the outpouring of support for our Veterans. It was a little crazy to see the reaction to the uniform though. Around here in Clarksville, uniforms are such an everyday thing, so seeing people react back home was interesting to say the least.

Proud wife moments!

Livin’ Easy

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I have been asked a lot lately how I feel about living on base. I am not really sure what people are expecting when they want me to describe my home, but they always seem surprised that I love living on base. I am linking up with several other ladies to answer questions about how we chose our living situations thanks to our military moves.

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It really was a no brainer for us to decide to find a place on base. With my housing background, I have had my housing provided with my job for awhile now. So the opportunity for Tom’s to continue that blessing was awesome.

If you are a single soldier, you do live in the barracks. I might add that they are nicer than some residence halls I have been in! Since we are married, Tom obviously qualifies for family housing. And the military has to provide housing in some capacity, whether that is the form of an actual place to live or giving you an allowance based on the surrounding area’s average living expenses. In order to live on base we did need to sign up for housing, and we were put on a waiting list for about a month before the duplex was offered to us.

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Our situation allowed us to wait until this little number came up. I was still working at ISU, and we knew that a deployment was coming up soon, so we were not in any big hurry to move into some place we didn’t want. It made sense to wait until we found something while I still had a job in Iowa. The timing could not have been more perfect for it.

I put a lot of trust into Tom, because he toured several different homes with the housing folks by himself before he picked this one. He never sent me a picture or called before he signed away. I’d say he did pretty well! It is a two-story, two-bedroom, one and half bath option. We have a fairly decent backyard, but we also lucked out being in a cul-de-sac so we have a nice field on the side as well. We chose the carport, which has been really convenient with our projects since our other option was a small garage. This allows for some more flexibility in use-such as having BBQs while it is raining.

The way housing works on base (at least here at Fort Campbell) is that you are basically put into brackets depending on the Sponsor’s (army person) rank. Then you also look at number of rooms based on the amount of dependents that sponsor has. Since I am technically a dependent according to the Army, we are entitled two rooms-one for Tom and one for me. Once we have a kid though I no longer factor in as a “room” number. If we had two kids, we could have a 3 room house, and so on and so forth.

Because we were in a position to wait and be patient for more options, Tom was able to say no to some places that just would not have fit us. So we were pretty fortunate that the long distance worked in our favor there. Some people may not have that luxury when they need to move so they get what they get or that is when a lot of people tend to search off base. Most of our friends have chosen to live off base because there just wasn’t housing available at the time they signed up and needed something right then.

There were a few factors that really influenced our desire to live on base:

1. We had lived on a college campus for the last few years, so moving into an Army supplied duplex was going to be an upgrade. No offense to housing folks who have given us housing! My apartments were always lovely, but not having college students around at all hours is pretty nice. And parking/mail right outside my door-awesome.

2. We knew we could have a backyard and that Grace would be allowed to live with us. Going off base, you always risk the chance that the place you love won’t allow for pets, or it is an arm and a leg to be allowed to have them. We just have to register Grace with the vet on base, and we are good to go. Now we just need to work on her not being afraid to go off the porch without a leash…

3. I didn’t have a job lined up at the time we made this decision, so this was just the fiscally responsible thing to do. The rent is covered as a part of the Army providing housing, so a bill we don’t have to worry about. We do not have to pay for any of the routine maintenance or utilities. The only utility we pay for is cable and internet. We have even had a few months were we have gotten paid for how much electricity we did not use! You are given a base rate of electricity you can use based on the average, then if you go way over you have to pay, but they pay you if you go under! We have never had to pay, and we aren’t the best stewards of our electricity thanks to Tom.  If we had lived off base, we would have received BAH (basic housing allowance), but it would not have covered everything like we see here on base. The math is just obvious when you start figuring it out. So anyway, the idea of not having as many bills (even though we are debt free) was too good to pass up when we had no idea what my income situation would be.

4. We were both new to the Army life, so we thought it would be nice to be surrounded by families who are in similar situations. I often forget though that everyone around us has an Army connection because it does not look like you are on base. They do a good job making it look like any neighborhood. But the truth of it is, there is at least one person in each home who has a job with the Army.

5. Convenience. Tom’s commute is like a 2-5 minute drive. Ft. Campbell is a huge base, so it has everything you would need right here.

6. With the Army, whether you make it a career or not, the reality is you probably will not be in the same place for a long time. With PCS schedules or just living out the current contract, we could really not see ourselves delving into the search for a house with the knowledge that we would leave it in a couple years for sure. This seemed like the easiest option without having to worry about leases because our timeline at Ft. Campbell was unknown at the time.

Those were just a few of the things that drove us to choose living on base. And we wouldn’t have it any other way. We know these aren’t the nicest house around, but for the price and convenience, we really couldn’t beat it. And I feel that we have done a really nice job making it feel like a home.

And now that we live here, I love this neighborhood. I have really enjoyed getting to know it better with my half marathon training and walking Grace. I have met a lot of other people just because of Grace. She has a lab friend that we run into practically every time we go out. And to see how the families are is really just ridiculously cute. It really restores some of my faith in humanity.

I know a lot of people who choose to live off base and love it but for us the choice was obvious! We are big proponents of base housing!

Here are some more shots of our neighborhood.

This playground is on the other side of the field that runs next to our house. There are playgrounds EVERYWHERE. And they are actual playgrounds with swings! You pretty much turn every corner and a playground is within sight.

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These are other duplexes next to us that have a garage instead of a carport.

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These are actual houses…not too shabby. You have to have put in some years to get these though. We think that they are at least 3 bedroom, if not 4 bedroom houses with a 2 car garage.

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Living on base gets a bad rap, but as you can see it isn’t any different than a neighborhood outside of the gates.

The only difference is you have to go through the gates to show ID to get home. And you see this kind of thing on a regular basis. So security is a little higher.

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If you are moving to the Ft. Campbell area there are a few things to note. Ft. Campbell sits on the state line.

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The base is nestled in the cities of Hopkinsville, KY and Clarksville, TN. I like to call it a bubble fort. I have not explored much of Hopkinsville because most of the hype goes to what is going on in Clarksville. Plus Clarksville is much larger than Hopkinsville. I also work in Clarksville at Austin Peay State University so I obviously see it more. There are several community colleges and state schools in the area if you are wishing to pursue more education. Clarksville is a growing city; the fifth largest in TN actually. Nashville is also an hour away from the area if you are looking for more opportunities of a big city.

It has been an adventure getting settled here, between trying to find a place to live (while we were long distance and deployment pending) and then figuring out a job for me. Now that things seemed to be more figured out, we really do like the area and are venturing out and exploring more that the base and surrounding communities have to offer.

Feel free to ask questions if you are curious about the area or our process!

PCSing..whoseywhatsits

Today, I am linking up with Ashley from Eights on the Move for Military Monday and PCS Adventures.

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I thought Student Affairs was bad with acronyms. That field has got nothing on the military.

PCS or Permanent Change of Station is basically the military’s way of saying moving for your job.

I am finally feeling like we have settled in from our PCS in May.

In the military, you can have the government pack and move you if you so choose. Tom and I decided to do a DITY (Do-IT-Yourself) move, which is where we move ourselves and then get paid by the Army.

We ended up saving/gaining some mula doing it this way. This way, I also had control over it and knew where everything was. Plus with the timing of things from my exit from Iowa State, we were able to get moving help from my end as well with loading the truck.

Double score.

Many people take this opportunity to travel and see the sites along the way to their new abode. Unlike others, we did not do anything extravagant on the way here. Our road trip was simple-get there as fast as we can. I get really stressed out on road trips-mostly because I get restless and cranky. We just wanted to get out of that Uhaul and into our new space. Plus sight-seeing can be somewhat difficult with a pooch. So we just drove through Iowa, Missouri, Illinois, and Kentucky stopping as little as we could.

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I was so lucky to have Tom help with the moving process. I am a little terrified of driving. (Seriously, I have a panic attack about driving on a weekly basis.) So driving this bad boy is a nightmare for me. I couldn’t imagine doing it without him, which is what many military families have to plan for. We have been thinking about what the next move will look like and the timing of his exit out of the Army and the next deployment. There are a lot of things to consider, but we aren’t going to worry about that just yet. But I am leaning more towards using PODS, especially since the Army will not pay for you to move “out.”

I am not sure which option is better. They both have pros and cons to it. I think you have to figure out what is best for you and your situation. It may look completely different if there are kids in the mix and depending on where you are going.

Maybe we would have taken more time if the trip would have needed to take several days across country anyway. Also if we were PCSing to say Italy or Hawaii, I think sight-seeing would be in order…all the time.

Regardless, I am glad the move is done and our PCS story has been written.

But the thing is, with the Army, someone is always PSCing. Tom’s unit seems to be doing all kinds of turnover. I feel like every day he comes home talking about another new person. It is really difficult to keep track. I need him to make the Army version of a family tree to keep it straight, along with their titles.

With this you have to say goodbye to people that you have gotten close to and learned a great deal from. You do this in any move really, but the frequency is probably not as high as it is in the military. It is just part of the deal with the Army. You get to meet a lot of people along the way, but they may not always stay in your neighborhood.

Tom just recently said goodbye to his platoon sergeant. Tom was the driver of his vehicle in Afghanistan, so he got to know the Sgt. pretty well. Plus, I think Tom was attached to him more because this Sgt. was his first out of basic and for his first deployment. But that is me just speculating the sentimental. His wife was also the FRG leader who answered all my questions while Tom was deployed and I was in Iowa.

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To show their appreciation, the company pooled together to get him a gift. Tom of course went into creation overdrive to make it the best thing ever. And it is one of the coolest things I have seen, so of course I have to share it!

They bought him a gun and had it engraved with special emblems for the brigade and company. It looked pretty snazzy! Then Tom made a box that looks like the boxes that everything came shipped in while they were in Afghanistan.

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The fun thing about this, was that Tom took a lot of time and energy to make it look like he didn’t care about the details. He was very particular about making it look like it had been on deployment.

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He then bought foam padding and also used the padding from the box the gun came in to cushion the gun while moving it.

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Even though I didn’t get to see this, it was fun hearing how the company gave the gift and the reactions from everyone. This family will be missed when they move to California!

So what exactly does Tom do?

I have been asked by so many people what does Tom do now that he is back from deployment. He is an Infantrymen, so his job in reality is to be deployed to the front lines. So people are always curious what he does when he is at home.

A few people think that he is on vacation now and are shocked that he goes to the “office” everyday. Although he does have the next 9 Fridays off…

Anyway, he still works while he is stateside. He goes in every morning for PT then they do various trainings through the rest of the day and then round it out with some more gym time if possible.

The trainings vary depending on the time of year. These are just some of the things they could be doing:

  • land navigation-how I interpret this is like a treasure hunt. They get coordinates and have to find their way around the woods. They will do this during the day and at night to get a feel for the land in different situations.
  • range time-practice shooting
  • Company STX (situational training exercise)- go out and practice attacking things or reacting to contact. Usually they have actors, and they have a mission to accomplish. They will get a brief and then have to go in and do what they would do on deployment. Did you know the base has entire fake cities to use for training? They even have people who will speak in other languages so they can work on how to converse with various populations that cannot communicate in English.
  • live fires-this is similar to STX (if not the same thing) but with live ammo instead of blanks and more about short attacks and without the actors obviously.
  • medical training- from proper bandage techniques to dealing with a casualty
  • detainee operations
  • clearing rooms how-to
  • classroom portions of the things above
  • and as my husband says getting dirty and eating MREs–>”the things that men do best”

But every once in awhile they rotate into a special duty such as funeral detail or flag detail.

Tom had to do funeral detail back in the spring. This is exactly what it sounds like. As a veteran, you can have a full honors military funeral where soldiers will come and do the ceremonial things such as the flag over the coffin and the 21 gun salute. So the units rotate this duty and are on call to serve the area. For the funeral Tom did, they had to drive a couple hours out to perform the service.

Flag detail is here on base and Tom had it this last week. This also rotates around the units. The unit has to raise the division flag each morning and then lower it at night. And as we learned this morning in the torrential downpour, it occurs no matter the weather.

Being a history major, I knew that there are a lot of rules with flags and how they are displayed:

  • if displayed with other flags, they must either be smaller or the same size as the US flag, but none bigger
  • unless… flags of two or more nations are displayed, they are to be flown from separate staffs of the same height. The flags should be of approximately equal size. International usage forbids the display of the flag of one nation above that of another nation in time of peace. The order of precedence for flags generally is National flags (US first, then others in alphabetical order in English), State (host state first, then others in the order of admission) and territories (Washington DC, Puerto Rico, etc.), Military (Army, Marine Corps, Navy, Air Force, Coast Guard), then other.
  • has to be lit if displayed overnight otherwise it must be taken down each night
  • inappropriate for it to touch the ground
  • The flag, when flown at half-staff, should be first hoisted to the peak for an instant and then lowered to the half-staff position
  • represents a living country and is itself considered a living things

There are tons more. It is actually really fascinating reading about the history and reasons for some of them.

But here are two little tidbits about the flag that I learned in the past week that I had no idea about!

One, did you know that the flag on a soldier’s uniform appears to be backwards?

I had never noticed it until Tom mentioned it this week. And here is an explanation why.

Army Regulation 670-1, “Wear and Appearance of Army Uniforms and Insignia,” updated most recently September 5, 2003, addresses explicitly the proper and lawful placement of the U.S. flag patch on the Army uniform.

The regulation states that when authorized for application to the proper uniform the American flag patch is to be worn, right or left shoulder, so that “the star field faces forward, or to the flag’s own right. When worn in this manner, the flag is facing to the observer’s right, and gives the effect of the flag flying in the breeze as the wearer moves forward. The appropriate replica for the right shoulder sleeve is identified as the ‘reverse side flag’.”

So it is like they are all flag bearers all the time. I love American symbolism.

And two, Tom told me a legend of things that are hidden in the flag poles themselves.

Each should have a bullet, knife, and matches so the last surviving soldier can continue fighting (with the knife), and if need be destroy the flag with matches (to prevent it from being captured), and take his own life with the bullet. Apparently, soldiers should not let the flag or themselves fall into enemy hands which ensued these dark measures hidden in the flag poles. Yikes.

Thanks for letting me geek out on some American history and symbols. I still remember trying to teach that silly red 5 block about flag history during my student teaching and getting so frustrated that they were not as excited and passionate as I was. Probably one of my worst days in teaching because I felt like a failed as a teacher and an American, and no I am not kidding. That was a bad day.

I digress.

I went and watched one of the days when Tom’s unit was lowering it. (I was never awake to watch it go up.) It is something that people can go and watch anytime, which is pretty cool. Although I felt like a creeper hanging out in the bushes with my camera. I wasn’t really in the bushes, just behind them. It just looks like it in some of my pictures. I wasn’t really sure where I could stand so I kind of lingered in the parking lot.

It was pretty cool to watch and listen to all these things you never think about. Army education-Armucation.

There are a lot of pictures so just get ready for some America.

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Tom got to shoot off the cannon, which I think made the whole 12 hour work days worth it.

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The one below is my one of favorite shots of the day.

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And there he is just staring at me, which he later told me that he was trying to tell me to move closer…ugh I can’t read lips or minds.

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It took a long time to bring the flag down and fold it, but think about how big it is and the fact that it cannot touch the ground and has to be folded in a certain way. They had to practice this a few times. I mean you don’t want to be “that guy.”

I will admit there were parts of me that wanted to race under there like you did when you had parachute day in gym class. ‘Merica.

And here is where I look like I am a lurker in the bushes.

Then there were several minutes of slow salutes and parading out.

So that is flag duty.

I am going to wean off doing a craft/home improvement every time I’m on here. Shocker, I know. Things are dying down a little for us, and I think Tom would not be happy with all my honey-do lists that come with the projects. Plus it is costly! I will still do projects pretty regularly because that is a huge stress relief, so don’t worry about the creativeness drying up! It just won’t be every entry.

Hope you had a great Monday!