Today marks SIX years married for Tom and I, and about this time 10 years ago we went on our first date.
I really don’t even know where to begin writing this post on our 6th year of marriage. It seems like last summer was a lifetime ago, and so much has happened since our last anniversary.
Towards the end of the summer, we were able to pay off all our remaining debt and our finances really stabilized because of the incoming cash flow.
We started talking about the next steps for our family. We knew we wanted to have another child, and now it seemed like a good time to start. We felt ready financially, and we also felt like George was at a good age where we could manage two.
However first, we wanted to look at our living situation. We had some serious conversations on what we wanted out of a house. We really loved our property, but knew in the long run we would outgrow it. We decided to just go for it and add on to the house before we had another kid. Unbeknownst to us, we were already cooking baby 2 when we started drawing up the plans with our contractor.
In August, we celebrated George’s 2nd birthday. I loved how all of this came together to honor the little man. A week later, we gave him his first big boy haircut and lost those curls.
We started another school year, which had me teaching in a classroom again. It was definitely the type of teaching that I enjoy, and I am so grateful to have that experience with the freshmen class.
George saw a train in real life for the first time, and we experienced Silver Dollar City a couple times that fall.
We traveled to Iowa a couple times to see old students and friends tie the knot.
We had a great fall season with many things happening:
- George was George Brett for Halloween and went trick or treating for real.
- I went to my Alma mater for Homecoming for the first time in a long time and marched on the field with George. #bandgeekforlife
- I ran a 10k with my sister-in-law.
- We went to pumpkin patches, corn mazes, and did all the fally things.
- George also got to experience his first Chiefs game.
But all of this pales in comparison to the news that we were expecting baby 2.
The year became about preparing everything for her arrival: our hearts and minds, our house, our finances, and George. We needed to prepare for the ultimate expansion of our family.
Thanks be to God, I received a promotion not long after the news of the baby. If anything, this year really solidified that God blessed me with the most amazing work life. I love the job that I get to do, and the people I get to work with.
In January, we found out that we were having a girl. I realized I never shared the video of how we told Tom’s family we were expecting a little lady.
We also started potty training George in January. I am so happy this went over well, but it was a trying time in our house that first month. If Tom and I can overcome potty training, I feel like we can overcome a lot more!
In February, I went to my first work conference since having George. It was the first time I was away from him for more than 24 hours in his entire life. These are the moments that make me grateful to have a partner like Tom. He took off that entire week to be with George and made it a special bonding time for the two of them. He made it so I could go focus on my professional self more, which is something I have not done in years.
This spring I also went on a ladies only trip with my favorite women. Again another time that Tom knew I needed to foster my relationships outside of our marriage.
April brought us our baby shower, and then we settled in for the last few weeks of enjoying time as a family of three.
May was a big month for us. Our house was getting near the end of the renovation. I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia again and trying to get everything settled at work for my leave.
Then on May 18th, Daphne Christine made her way into the world swiftly.
I had a traumatic experience the day she was born. I thank God every day that I look into my family’s faces that I came through that fully back to normal. By His grace alone was that possible.
Daphne has been with us for a month now, and we are adjusting to life as a family of four quite nicely I believe.
This year has been so full of changes, but also was an opportunity for us to be still. Tom and I have had to have hard discussions about our future whether that be our investments or how we decide to parent. (Parenting a toddler brings out the best and worst in people.)
This year we really tried to make sure that each other’s needs were being met so we could be the best for each other and our children. It is still a work in progress some days, but marriage will always ebb and flow.
We have really come into our own as a couple this year. Our jobs are good; our family is good; and we love our newish house.
I was talking with a friend recently about how it seems like this is the time that we are no longer working towards something. We aren’t in school; we aren’t waiting for something to end like the Army; and we have the family and jobs we hoped and prayed for. We have everything we ever wanted and dreamed of right now. This is the time that we are supposed to just enjoy the fruits of our labor and to be normal and settled.
I can’t wait to see what this next year brings.
Especially with these two leading the way.
I am so thankful for the years we have had together. While every day is not a piece of cake, I am glad that I am in the search of that cake with you.
I love you more than yesterday. Let’s settle in to enjoy year seven.
If you want to read more about the past 10 years for Tom and I, you can go here to see several posts about our relationship.