Like many churches, we were asked to go through a marriage counseling class before our wedding with our church.
They had several couples come throughout the day to give us advice. For the most part, we had great discussions and things were applicable to our relationship.
But there was one couple who made remarks that I still disagree with to this day. They said that Tom and I didn’t take love seriously if we said “I love you” all the time. They thought that it didn’t make it special if you threw it out at each other anytime and everyday. I believe they called us young and naive with how we say those words.
I think saying “I love you” has kept us together as long we have. If we didn’t have love, then what I am I sitting here in Iowa all by myself for?
I fully believe that you should proclaim your love to those that you love every chance you get.
I will say it in the heat of an argument to remind myself that I do love him and whatever we are fighting about is really not a big deal.
I will say it randomly and out of the blue just to feel some love.
I will say it to be romantic.
I will say it to compliment something that Tom has done for me.
I will say it because Tom is doing something uber cute that makes me fall for him just a little bit more.
I will say it to remind Tom that I am always here for him no matter what life throws at us.
I will say it anytime we have to say goodbye or before we go to sleep.
I will say it because I am not always sure if this time will be the last time. And I want him to know that I do. No doubts.
I say it because that’s how I feel, and why wouldn’t I reiterate to my husband that I love him dearly anytime I can?
We should say those three words when we feel it. Yes, there is a lot of meaning when you put it out there, so it shouldn’t be said unless you actually feel it. But love is meant to be shared so let it out and tell people that you love them.
During Tom’s basic training, I wrote him a letter each day because you don’t get to interact any other way. And each day I ended it with, “I love you more than yesterday.” Love should grow. So each time I say it, it means a little bit more.
So that couple in my opinion was wrong. You should say it as many times as you can. We all need real love. It is fundamental.
(I will add that this couple also told us to sniff diapers and charcoal to learn more about each other. So I am not sure how much I would actually take their advice in the first place.)
My craft tonight is inspired by Tom and I’s journey of love.
It was really easy to make.
- maps (I ended up just printing them of the internet because some of the cities I needed were on state borders and thus meant they were on the crease in the atlas. )
- 3 part picture frame
I cut the maps down to size and then traced the words with a marker.
Tom and I met in KC, MO; got engaged in Savannah, GA; and married in Jeff City, MO.
Also fun fact, KC is where I grew up and JC is where Tom grew up. I think that is just fun that they sandwich Savannah where we would like to retire someday.
We might add other frames with the places that we have lived together since it looks like we still have a few travels ahead!