Baby 3: 21 Weeks

How far along: 21 weeks

Sex of Baby W: It was confirmed at my appointment yesterday that he is still a boy. We have a first name picked out, but the baby may come out before we can decide on a middle name.

Weight gain: I am finally turning the tide of gaining weight. I have made up for the weight I have lost so far and am now up 2 pounds.

Size of Baby W: a baseball cap

Maternity clothes: I fully have a bump, but I only wear maternity clothes when I have to leave the house for appointments. Otherwise I have fully embraced the legging lifestyle while staying at home. Which is probably best because I gave away all my maternity clothes so I am going as long as I can in my active wear.

Baby items: We are going through the stuff that we still have to see what is still needed since we gave so much away after Daphne. The clothes we kept are completely off season since Daph and George were summer babies, so there are some gaps in what he may need in the first year. I did buy some newborn clothes because I couldn’t help myself.

Stretch marks: I have a few on my hips, but I don’t think those had gone away from the last pregnancy.

Belly button in or out:  It is starting to flatten out, but it is still in.

Sleep: Sleep is not great. I fall asleep fine, but it’s like I am in that light sleep all night. My back is always so stiff in the morning from laying in one position. But then I can have a great nap on the couch or in Daphne’s toddler bed.

Best moment the past few weeks: Seeing the baby during the 20 week ultrasound yesterday. It was great to see his little profile and seeing him wiggling around in there. Everything is looking good and measuring perfectly.

Worst moment the past few weeks: Our life is pretty boring, so there isn’t anything too dramatic. Work has been crazy and unpredictable so I could do without the long extra hours that are happening right now.

Miss anything: I really want sushi and coffee.

Cravings: I wanted cosmic brownies and chocolate milk this week. Other than that, I am just craving things I can’t have. I am having only one aversion now, and that is to grilled chicken.

Movement: Little baby is moving more and more now. Tom actually got to feel a kick this week. George said that he could hear him through my belly tonight but it was just my food digesting.

Symptoms/how I am feeling: I am doing fairly well symptoms wise. I have the energy to be able to workout again, and that is so helpful for my mental state. I still get tired easily. I am having round ligament pain in the mornings, which I don’t feel like I had with the others. When I get up I feel like I can’t fully stand up because I can’t fully stretch out my midsection. It makes sense though since this is the third kid; my ligaments just don’t want to stretch any further.

Looking forward to: George’s birthday celebrations are this month! He picked a Christmas theme, and I am looking forward to celebrating with my holiday loving 6 year old.

You can read about George at 21 weeks here and Daphne here.

Old Wives Tales Round Three

I think these old wives tales are fun to go through. I did it with George and Daphne. It’s a fun little thing to get people guessing. I got these from this site. Some of them were kind of odd, so I didn’t use all of them. We are going to be doing the reveal this weekend at 4th of July with fireworks.

  • Rumor has it that if you are carrying your baby high, it’s a girl. Carrying low? Stock up on blue. Similar tales say if you carry in front, you’ve got yourself a little boy, and if you expand horizontally, it’s a girl. I had Tom tell me what he thinks because I personally cannot tell. He thinks that I am carrying low and in the front. BOY.
  • Legends say that if you are having a little girl, she’ll steal your beauty. So, if you’ve got acne and other not-so-pretty skin blemishes, you’ve got a little princess coming your way. Dry hands and cold feet are signs of a boy. So, if you’ve got these ailments, break out the baby blue. I have had a few hormonal blemishes, but nothing horrible. BOY. I have not had any dry hands or cold feet. GIRL.
  • Your baby’s heart rate might be an indicator of its gender. If your little one’s heart rate is under 140 beats per minute, you’re having a little boy. If it’s over, get ready for your little girl! The heartbeat has been 174 and 157. GIRL.
  • Craving sweets? According to some, that means you’re going to have a little girl. Salty and sour cravings indicate a boy. I have not really had a lot of cravings but more an aversion to things. During the first trimester I could not eat any candy and my normal smoothie wanted to make me gag, so I would say sweets were off the table for the most part. I pretty much was eating processed foods like Totinos pizzas and Chef Boyardee. Things have gotten a little better but still not really craving much.  BOY.
  • Chinese Predictor It comes up BOY.
  • The Mayans used a similar method. They looked at your age at conception and the year your baby was conceived. If both are even or odd, it’s a girl. If one is even and one is odd, oh baby — it’s a boy! At conception I was 34, and it is 2020. GIRL.
  • Morning sickness means pink. If you’re stricken with a queasy stomach during your first trimester, think ribbons and bows. If you sail through your pregnancy with nary an upset stomach, it’s blue all the way. I was pretty much nauseous through the whole first trimester. GIRL.

So according to most of “predictors” it is 50/50 whether we are having a girl of boy. With both George and Daph, these old wives tale said we were having girls, which is why I find these funny.

We’ll be sharing later on this week to let you know if these are right or not. (I know, it’s pretty much only baby posts lately…)

What do you think we are having? 

Whitener Season Three

We have been keeping a little secret with our home “Office” crew.

We are so excited about this newest little nugget. There is so much to share in time about this pregnancy: why three, conversations with my doctors about the risk, how the kids are reacting to having another sibling, and how having a pregnancy during quarantine has gone for me so far. I have been pregnant since before we started working at home, so that has definitely added to the dynamic of quarantine…and also clears up for everyone that this is not a quarantine baby because that seems to be the first assumption.

For now, we just want to share that come December we will have another Whitener little in the mix.

Daphne Turns Three!

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Today my baby girl is three. It’s hard to believe that this sweet girl is now such a big girl. She is less and less like a toddler every day. To honor her today, I wanted to share three words that I feel perfectly describes this gal.

Independent

She has always done things in her own time frame including her own birth. She came out early and hasn’t stopped doing things at her own pace since. She is constantly telling us that she can do things on her own. She rarely asks for help, and she is the most determined person I know. She is constantly learning and pushing herself to be a big girl. I think the perfect example is watching this girl push herself on the tree swing. She is most content when she does things for herself. She is ambitious and curious, and I love seeing her come into her own power. But again, she will let you know when she is ready. And I love her confidence about that, and I pray that she always feels free and knows her worth.

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Headstrong

Along with her independence, this girl’s will is nothing to mess with. She is as stubborn as a mule. This comes with positives because of that determination but can be also extremely frustrating when she tries to out wait you on something. Her tantrums can last for hours, but that stamina also plays really well for her when she is learning something new. When she puts her mind to something she will find a way to do it. She is uncompromising when it comes to what she wants. She also knows how to fight for what she wants. This girl can hold her own with George and often leaves him in her dust. Daph is not going to buy into something that she doesn’t find meaning in, and she stands by her opinions. She has such conviction when she decides to do something or stand for something, and this makes me excited to see how she is going to change the world.

Purposeful

These words all seem to over lap, but I feel that with her feelings she is very intentional with what she shares. She can be guarded and shy, but when she lets you into her inner circle she is never letting you go. She loves big, and to feel her love is nothing short of amazing. There is no one she loves more than her stuffies. She has names for them all, and often does roll call to make sure she knows where they all are. She is always mothering them and carrying at least one stuffie around at all times. She rarely cuddles with anyone, but lately she has been sneaking in our bed in the middle of the night to be close to her mommy and daddy. She says the sweetest things and has the most perfect timing and delivery. She has purpose with everything she does, and you can see those wheels turning as she is processing things around her. It is amazing to see how smart and careful she is with her feelings.

Daphie Girl, you inspire me every day. I am honored to be your mommy, and you are always amazing me with who you are becoming. You are going to do incredible things my dearest.

I asked George what he loved about his sister, and he said that she eats a lot and is funny.

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Beginnings and Endings

I have found that with parenting, once a new phase begins you are not only dealing with the excitement of the new phase but also the feelings of leaving another phase behind. The art of watching your kids growing up is bittersweet.

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This last week I have been pondering on this thought quite a bit as both of my kids are going through pivotal moments. We registered George for kindergarten, and Daphne is now potty trained and moved out of a crib.

I am not ok.

The stark difference of what these things mean has left me in a weird place.

THEY LOOK SO GROWN.

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I am so excited to see George start big-all-day-kid school. I love learning, and school was a magical place for me growing up. I see that curiosity in George, and I know he will love it. But there is also this sadness that there will be so much of his world that I no longer know. I wrote about the emotions of sending him off to preschool this fall, but something about kindergarten is even more momentous.

And with Daph, potty training is such a big step in toddlerhood. For the most part, I am so ecstatic to no longer have diapers in my house. I feel a sense of freedom for us all with letting her learn more about her body and taking control of herself. She also moved out of the crib like it was no big deal, however my insides were breaking since that bed had been a crib for both my babies over the last 6 years. And while I am so proud of her walking into this next phase with so much confidence, part of me knows that the diapers and crib were the last of the babyhood stage.

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The thing about independence is that I believe it is the thing we all hope that our kids have when they get older, but man is it hard to see it slip away.

It’s funny that there are many stages that we see coming, like registering for Kindergarten. I have seen this coming since he was born. Yet it is still hard to know I am watching a season of our lives end this year. I wonder all the time if we are doing this phase justice and doing all the we can to make it positively memorable and impactful.

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Then there are other stages that you don’t even realize are gone until you are well into the next one.

There was a day with both kids that it was the last time I rocked them to sleep, but I don’t recall thinking let’s change up the routine. I couldn’t even tell you when that stopped for both. In my head, I am distraught because how could I forget that!

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I am not sure which is harder on the emotions: the ones you see coming and plan for or the ones that change with more subtlety. Either way when the worry of one phase ends the worry of the new phase comes flooding in to take it’s predecessor’s place.

As we are entering full force into the big kid years, I am trying to remain present. As I watched Daphne this weekend, I was reminded that it is all fleeting. I wonder all the time if the snuggles George asks for will be the last ones or when Daphne decides she doesn’t want to make me a bedtime snack of plastic food before I tuck her in. My heart just breaks thinking I might miss the significance of the last ask. So let’s read an extra book or build one more Lego structure.

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It is like there is a little mourning that happens with things of each phase. There are days that I really miss the sweet newborn stages, but then I see moments like tonight where George came in to comfort his sister when she was hurt. If he stayed a newborn, I would never get to experience watching their relationship evolve.

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But that is the push and pull of parenthood I guess. There are often times we are looking for a phase to end and rushing into the next one (hello George at 4…). Then other moments I never want to leave the sweet innocence, or I look back and weep that they have grown so much in a blink of an eye.

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I am not sure I am really saying anything profound. Parenting is this weird mix of polarizing feelings. I am sad my babies are growing into big kids, but I am happy seeing how fun the big kid stage can be. I am sad that it seems that they need me less, but I am happy that they are figuring out their own way. I am sad that there are things about their lives that we will never experience again, but I am happy to welcome all the new experiences we will have together.

With the beginning of each new season, brings an end to another. There is some poetry in that I suppose. I could see that if we stayed in a season for too long, you would lose sight of it’s beauty. It does give us something to hope for with the change, and something to look fondly back on when we have forgotten the mess of it all. I guess we are in each season as long as we need to be, and we can thank God for that.

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These kids I tell ya. The things they do to my heart!