2018 Gains

At the turn of the year, a lot of the focus is about shedding the pain of the previous year or looking to lose something in the year to come.

While I would love to lose some of my squish or get rid of some of the clutter that plagues my house, I want to look at all that I have gained in this last year.

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The gains came in many different forms over the past year.

I gained a new role at work. I never thought when I started working at CC four years ago, that my path would have led me to being the Director of my office. I work with some amazing people, and I am in a position to do some great things for our students. While this new position has brought challenges, it has helped me grow in so many ways. I am grateful for the opportunity to do what I do. (Also being interim director was the pits, so when that became official last January, I gained some of my sanity back!)

I gained the experience of doing a flash mob with other directors, and I have to say it has been one of my highlights of my CC experience. Bucket list item done!

I gained a little boy who knows how to spell and write his name, all his letters, and can count to 20. George soaks up things like a sponge, and every moment listening to him gives me so much perspective. He gives me joy and keeps me humble all at the same time.

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I gained new friends this year. As an adult and as a parent, finding time to invest in friendships can be difficult. I feel blessed with every moment that I had to create new relationships.

I also gained new memories with old friends. My best friend got married this year, and I was so honored to be standing beside her as she started a new chapter of her life.

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We gained a new tradition of hosting 4th of July at our house. This is something that Tom has wanted since he was a kid, so to see this come to fruition this year was pretty spectacular. And so were the fireworks he put together!

I gained my husband back. 2017 brought us one of the biggest challenges, and we continued to see fallout into 2018. He was putting everything into his career, and he was just spinning in a toxic department that provided him no support. This year, he made the big move to a new department that allowed us more freedom as a family. We gained weekly lunch dates because of it, and we also did two kid-free weekends out of town. Not only that, but he is home every night, weekends and holidays. These are all moments we gained back this year to invest in our marriage and our family.

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We gained a new Serta posturepedic mattress for $50. Tom happened to be in the right conversation at the right time, and a brand new mattress came to our house a few days later. We desperately needed this, and a 2018 miracle.

We gained another walker as Daphne took her first steps around her first birthday. Watching this calm little spirit become her own person who moves and grooves on her own has been such a joy. It’s a bittersweet gain for sure.

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We gained a brood of hens. This is a fun new adventure that has changed up our routines, and the chickens brought a sense of wonder to our kids. We love knowing what is going into our eggs. It will be fun to see what happens as the kids get older with their responsibilities of helping with the coup.

I gained ownership of my body again. After being pregnant and breastfeeding for the better part of 2 years, it was nice to just sustain myself with my body. But with this, I gained a new appreciation for what my body and my mind are capable of since breastfeeding with my job was no easy feat.

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I have gained more memories with my family. We have had so many laughs and good moments this year that are worth celebrating even if they are very mundane. From watching my kids play on our new playground to making forts in our living room to parades downtown to Royals games to family vacation to Branson, these moments are what made the year.

I gain so much every day with these two.

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All in all, I have gained a lot this year. These gains are helping me walk into 2019 stronger, with more confidence, and more motivated. I can’t wait to see what gains I take on these next year.

Daphne-18 Months

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Weight:  I forgot to weigh her today…Whoops. She has her check up tomorrow, and I am really excited to see how much she has grown. I would be surprised if she isn’t above the average in height and weight now.

Health: She has been great these past couple months. Her last two teeth are working their way in, but other than those couple moody moments with those, she has been great.

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Diet: She is still a really great eater. She is not eating as much veggies on their own. However, she will eat them frozen or if they are mixed in small bites with rice. There really isn’t much else that she won’t eat. She loves the fruit and veggie packets, and she gets angry if George has one and she does not. You also know that she is ready to eat because she pushes her booster seat up to the table, and she attempts to climb in.

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Clothes:  She had a HUGE growth spurt since her last update. She shot up to 18 month clothes, and just skimmed over the 12-18 month size. She also completely skipped over size 4 shoes. She is in size 5 now, but I am not sure how much longer we will be in these. Seriously she grew so much so fast! She is in size 6 diapers.

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Sleeping:  We have been putting her to bed around 7:30/8 still, and she generally stays asleep through the night until 7/8 in the morning. I think our days of two naps is coming to an end. Some days she does just fine without her morning nap, and other days it is still very apparent she needs it. She is no longer in her Zipadee Zip suit though. I am still scared to leave her with a blanket over night, but she has been doing pretty good having her hands free for the first time in her life. She has been swaddled since birth!

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Likes:  She loves my phone. She will throw a fit if you try to take it away from her. She loves Elmo. She loves to read, her favorites being an Elmo search and find, Itsy Bitsy Spider, and Jesus Loves Me. She adores George, and she is always following him around and getting in his business. She loves Duplo Legos, and she is so good at putting them together. She has gotten into coloring and drawing this month. She love shoes, and she puts on anyone’s that she can get her hands on. Much to my chagrin, she loves her stuffed animals. I feel like every night there are new ones in her crib.

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Dislikes:  Not getting food fast, George having things she doesn’t, being told she can’t sit on the table, basically being told no.

Milestones: She has started asking to sit on the potty! She has peed in it once, but there have been numerous times that she just went in her diaper than dragged us to the bathroom for the potty. I am not really wanting to do full potty training just yet because she doesn’t really talk yet. We’ll ask her pediatrician tomorrow for more guidance. She just seems so little! She does a lot of animal noises. She is actually a really great listener. She knows all the rooms in the house by name. She also has started helping put dishes away as we are cleaning up for dinner. She was Jane Goodall for Halloween, and she actually went up to doors to get candy. She can open doors now…

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Nicknames:  Daphie, Sisterbear, Sis, and Daphie Girl. The two most common are still Daph and Sister.

Quirks:  Her waves are all like she is shooing you away. She has started walking on her tip toes everywhere. We are constantly telling her to put her heels down.

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We parents are: doing pretty good. October was crazy for us, we watched some of our closest friends get married which was a blast. We are heading into a busy and stressful time, so we have been trying to be chill these past few weeks.

George is: something. He has been hard this past month. He really does not like Daphne getting into his stuff. He has figured out he can pick her up, so he will do that and basically will drag her around and drop her out of his range. He is not above kicking and shoving her, so he has spent a good portion of his days in time out recently. We are working on using appropriate words when he is feeling frustrated and how to ask for help instead of hurting his sister. We have been using the “breathing” method and doing a lot of praying. He also basically never eats, so that makes dinner times really enjoyable trying to teach him what is rude behavior.

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The dogs are: the best. We really lucked out adopting these two. We have had Grace now for 7 years as of Halloween, and Crosby for 5 years this fall. Daphne LOVES Crosby. She is always trying to pet him, and she makes sure to tell him goodnight every night. They are the most patient dogs, and I love them for it.

Daphie, I cannot believe you have been here for 18 months. Every time you run down the hallway, I see my heart beating outside of my chest. I am so in love with you and the little person you are becoming.

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Here is George at 18 months.

George Gabs

This kid.

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His words and conversations are things I want to remember about this time.

Here are some recent talks we have had with him.

My niece was in a play this weekend so we sent her a good luck video. I just can’t.

We were in the car for this one:

“Stop signs are red, and that stop sign is very stoppie. Then you need to close your lips.”

George was on the toilet trying to go number two:

“My tummy hurts. I think it was the broccoli.” (George doesn’t ever eat broccoli.)

We have made getting our chicken eggs a chore for George every day.

Me-“Since you get to help with the eggs, do you think that you would like to eat eggs now?”

George-“No, I only like shakes and hotdogs.” (FYI, this is not the only thing we feed him.)

We were sitting down for lunch one weekend, when George gets up and goes out to the front deck and screams.

“I just needed to use my loud voice.” (At least he is listening about inside and outside voices.)

And that doesn’t even top one of my favorite videos I have ever taken of George. I die every time I watch this.

We usually read several books to George, and then he gets to pick out one book to take into his bed. One night he was holding me hostage in his room to continue reading.

Me-“George it is time to go to bed. I am not going to read anymore books tonight.”

George-“Ok I will read, and you can just say the words.”

And just tonight, George said this to me while cooking dinner.

George-“I don’t want to eat what you are cooking.”

Me-“Do you even now what I am cooking?”

George-“No, but I know I will feed it to the dogs.”

Life is never boring with this one.

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Space Birthday Party

It’s my M.O. to get behind documenting birthdays, so here we are 2 months after the fact for George’s 4th birthday.

Better late than never.

Tom is obsessed with space so when George was little, I started collecting all the space books I could for the two of them to read together. And George has also grown to love all things space, so it was only fitting to have this as one of his themes.

It was out of this world!

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My mom drew this sign. She is so talented!

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I got these treat boxes on Etsy, here. I just filled them with candy (Milky Ways, Starbursts and a star whistle). While they are cute, they take forever to cut out. If my mom had not been so patient with them, Tom and I would have given up after 2 rockets. They are a beast to put together.

My sister-in-law put together these centerpieces. Aren’t they cute with George cutouts on the planets?

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My sister-in-law also owns blow up planets for her classroom, so they came in handy for our decorations.

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I did pretty basic on the food. I got these cookies from Hy-Vee. However, I don’t think I will do that again because they were pretty pricey. Their cakes are where they are at anyway.

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As per usual, we had it in the church gym. It is so easy to do here. We had a couple activities in the gym. Daphne was just having a blast running around living her best life.

One activity was this cardboard rocket that the kids could color. I had gotten it for my niece years ago off Zulily. She gifted it down to George, so it was perfect to bring out. Unfortunately, it did not make it past the party.

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I got these balloons from Wish for like a dollar, so it was a steal! I am kicking myself for not buying more than one packet because George still asks for these.

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My mom made this meteor toss game. Seriously, she made it out of our trash and a little spray paint.

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We decided to go all out on this party, and we got a bounce house. It was totally worth every penny. Although for the size of the thing, I really paid nothing!

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I got this astronaut outfit on Amazon from Melissa and Doug. We love dress up in our house, so this has gone into our dress up box.

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My mom put aluminum foil over some rain boots. It turned out just perfect! (Also my mom was the real MVP of this party.)

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We had the best time celebrating our boy!

Putting together his birthdays are so much fun. He is the best.

Apparently so much fun, that we forgot a family photo…whoops!

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#Last90Days

I am one of the folks who recently fell in love with Rachel Hollis. As I was watching Instagram storiesrecently, I saw this picture. Then I started seeing Rachel post about the challenge and the thought behind it.

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The concept of ending the year like we go into the year was a novel idea to me. I think we all can own up to that this time of year just kind of takes over with all the things, and we often forget to take care of ourselves.

Since school started, I have slid a little on getting up without hitting the snooze button no less than 5 times. I drink soda way more than I should. Even this week I missed a couple workouts when I had been so good for months not missing even one.

So I want to do this challenge, because I love challenges. I love challenges because it keeps me accountable. Challenges are like to-do lists to mark off. And doing something for 3 months will hopefully make a big impact.

So…

  • I am going to get up at 5am on the week days and 6:30 on the weekends because I am a realist) to walk and do a devotional. I honestly can’t remember the last time I was consistent on a daily devotional.
  • I am going to give up gummy candy and soda. Peach rings and Dr. Pepper are my weakness. I ate almost a whole bag today, and I have had soda almost every day this week. Yikes.
  • And when holidays tend to be more stressful than necessary, what a better time to get a new journal to write my gratitudes down.
  • I am going to work out every day. Repeat…I am going to work out every day.
  • I am going to finally read Rachel’s book. I have had it on my wish list for months, but reading books is hard for me right now. I just cannot keep myself awake! I have time at George’s gymnastics practice, so maybe I won’t fall asleep while I am reading in the stands.

Now does anyone out there know of a Snooze Button support group? I am going to need it.

I may share more of my progress (and struggles) on Instagram because blogging is increasingly more difficult for me these days.

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Have you heard of this challenge? What would you commit to for your last 90 days?