Last weekend, I was with my best friend shopping for a wedding present for a friend of ours. As we were checking out, the checker asked whose wedding we were attending. We explained that it was a friend of ours from college. She then asked, “Oh is this her first marriage?”
Annette and I both look like we are still in college so I am not sure where she was coming from on this. She then went on to explain her parent’s divorces and how many people just don’t make it these days.
Well unfortunately she is right. But we were still dumbfounded that it was so common for her to ask mid twenty somethings “if this was her first marriage” like it was nothing.
Typically that is not the first question you are expecting after talking about a wedding.
I come from divorced parents myself so marriage was never something that I took lightly. Tom and I were together for 3 years before we got engaged and then another year before we tied the knot. We went through a lot in that time to figure out that marriage was our fate.
I am not against divorce. Watching my parents over the years, I understand that sometimes, even though divorce can be messy, it is the best for all parties involved. And sometimes it is the only answer to make everyone happy in the long run. There are a lot of reasons why divorce is good and necessary.
But this is not an entry on the benefits of divorce. Marriage is hard work, and sometimes you aren’t perfectly Disney happy. But, I know that I want my marriage to last.
So to make it, you have to have a little faith.
And boy has ours needed faith pretty much since the day we got married.
You envision a marriage growing up as something you see in fairy tales. So perfect and lovely, and always happy endings with a fantastic symphonic overture.
Well, Tom and I have been tested since day one. From Tom’s job search here in IA not panning out as we hoped, and now mine in KY hitting a brick wall, oh and then there is this whole Army thing and being apart for the better part of a year. We have got to have some faith in our foundations.
We have to have faith that someday we will actually be together not stressed about job searches or where we live. (Although my dad in his infinite wisdom says there is always something to stress about. Thanks for the pep talk, Daddio.)
We have to have faith that Tom will return safely.
We have to have faith in us.
I wear Tom’s wedding ring on a necklace every day. I get asked all the time if it’s Tom’s or my dad’s.
Yes, he could wear it over there, but he didn’t want it damaged in case something happened.
So I wear it. Everyday, everywhere. It is a little piece of him close to my heart at all times.
And do you know what is written on the inside of the ring? FAITH.
No joke. I noticed it one day while he was in basic training last year. Neither of us knew it was there until then. Talk about bringing chills.
So it is a constant reminder to me, just to hold on a little longer. Have some faith.
Faith can give you the strength to do things you never imagined.
I never thought I could be an Army wife, until I met Tom. Just a lot of faith, and maybe a little bit of crazy.
So what do you have faith in?
Now back to the notion of fairy tales and all that jazz.
My favorite princess growing up was Belle. I thought she was awesome. She was a book reader like me (I fantasize about having a library like the one in the movie), and we both have brown hair and blue eyes. I also thought I could sing as well as her when I was a kid, but who was I kidding? Anyway, when you are a kid those were really all the similarities you needed. At the time, I thought all the other princesses were too girly or blonde.
Anyway, my love for Belle and the story of Beauty and the Beast has grown up with me. I freaked out when I was 25 and met her at Disneyworld. I still love the character to this day.
And I would say that I took some of Belle’s notes and have tamed a beast myself when I started dating Tom. On our first date, he did tell me he didn’t want kids or to get married.
In a month, I will have the chance to meet my childhood idol once again!
I am going to be running the Disney Princess Half Marathon at Disneyworld. And incidentally, the two women in the picture above are the two who I am running it with.
And yes, I am going to be dressing up as Belle. EEEEK! Dreams really do come true!
This weekend I made my tutu and headband for the affair. I am so pumped!
For the tutu I used 6 spools of tulle (4 yellow and 2 glitter) and an elastic band.
I sewed the band. I would do it smaller than your actual waist because it will stretch as you tie on the tulle. I had to cut some extra off towards the end and sew again, because it grew as I worked through it.
Then you just make knots with the tulle.
And if you are using glitter tulle this is what happens. Glitter everywhere.
And for the headband I will wear I bought several flowers, sequins to match and a simple headband.
Then you just hot-glue the flowers and the sequins to the headband. And voila, you have a princess headband!
I had extra flowers so I made these too. It was cheaper to buy several flowers and headbands in packs than individual ones. Go figure.
I didn’t have anyone to take my picture, so you will have to wait until February to see the full costume. I know the suspense may kill you.
Just know, that it is fantastic. I am sure this will be the most fun I have ever had running 13.1 miles.